'16 and Pregnant' And Living In New Zealand
Recent statistics show New Zealand has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancies in the world, so, off the back of the success of the new season of ‘16 and Pregnant: Season 2’ MTV New Zealand decided to talk to young mothers who could relate first hand to the experience.
NZ Family Planning Chief Executive Jackie Edmond says talking with young people about the impact of an unplanned pregnancy on their lives, and the lives of those around them, is important and our inspirational teen parents from Mt Eden, Auckland agree.
These young mothers, ranging from 15-18 years old have offered to write for MTV after watching each episode of '16 and Pregnant: Season 2'.
Here are their thoughts...
May 18, 2010
In the first episode of the new season, we meet Jenelle, a high school senior and major party animal who lives with her mother Barbara and her boyfriend's mother. When she discovers she is pregnant, her boyfriend Andrew suddenly takes off, leaving Jenelle to cope alone. Once she gives birth, she calls it quits with Andrew, but doesn’t curb her party-hard lifestyle, leaving mum to look after her young son…
My Response: Hayley
I was disappointed that Janelle felt she couldn’t step up to be a mum in the end. I can’t understand why she wouldn’t, as I have been in her shoes and feel I stepped up to be the best mum I could. She seems overly focused on herself and her social status rather than her gorgeous baby. She was also rude to her mum who does everything for HER baby and didn’t get much thanks. Overall it was real and that’s sad. I feel sorry for the baby who won’t really know his mum as mum. She will probably be more of a sister.
I love all the '16 and Pregnant' shows because I can relate to them as I also was 16 and pregnant. It’s a really good idea because you see the girls going through the pregnancy easily, but after the baby is born they find out how hard it really is. I hope it shocks some young girls into realising that having a little baby is not as easy as it looks.
My Response: Amelia
I think ‘16 and Pregnant’ is a good show because it shows teen mums are not the only ones going through the pregnancy. Some people can cope and some can’t. I think Janelle deserved better than Andrew [the dad], he was just thinking of himself most of the time. After Janelle gave birth I think she was a bit lost and didn’t know how to handle looking after her baby.
May 24, 2010
This week, we asked our young mothers to watch the second episode, which follows the story of Nikkole, a popular cheerleader whose boyfriend Josh breaks up with her when he learns she is pregnant. They reconcile, only for Josh to start dating his ex-girlfriend behind Nikkole’s back.
My Response: Hayley
I liked this episode with Nikkole, although the poor girl had a loser boyfriend. I was happy to see her and her mom had a much nicer relationship than Janelle and her mum in the first episode. She was also a better mum than Janelle because it seemed she really cared about that little boy and it was good to see that not all teenage mums just give up. But Nikkloe’s boyfriend Josh was just horrible. What did she even see in him in the first place? He was a smart a**, controlling, a liar as well as a cheat. I’m glad he left her because she would have been dragged through the mud until she broke. It’s better sooner rather than later.
My Response: Amelia
I think Nikkole is doing the right thing about not getting back with Josh because he doesn’t know how to respect people. I think the programme is good because it shows how teenage moms cope with being pregnant as well as being a parent.
June 3, 2010
Homeschooled Valerie gets a huge shock when her boyfriend Matt breaks up with her when he learns she is pregnant. But after her baby girl Nevaeh has some health issues in hospital, Matt steps up and shows her that he is ready to be a dad after all…
My Response: Amelia
I think Matt was a bit lost at the start of Valarie’s pregnancy because he didn't want to talk or hang out with her. It was nice that he was there for her when she was in labour. I felt sad when the doctor says that Nevaeh had inhaled her own waste but then he said she was alright and this made me happy. I think she is a very good mother because she looked after Nevaeh all alone. I liked it how she didn’t hand Nevaeh to other people when things got hard in the first 6 weeks of her life.
My Response: Hayley
I really liked this episode of 16 and pregnant as it showed all first time mothers are the same, whether you’re a teen mum or older. I was really happy Nevaeh was okay after the big emergency when she was born.
I also though Matt really stepped up to being a dad and even though he didn’t see Nevaeh much he really tried when he was around to look after her. I wasn't too impressed with him in the beginning though as he didn’t treat Valarie very well. Although he was lovely as were Valarie’s parents when she was in labour. This was a very good episode and I look forward to watching the next one.
My Response: Tripoli
I thought that Valarie coped with her boyfriend troubles and her situation very well. She proved to be quite mature by letting Matt move on instead of causing more stress for herself by trying to stay with him. In the end Matt proved to be a good dad, when he was around, and he did show support which was good. I’m glad everything worked out in the end with Nevaeh’s health.
My Response: Sisifa
I watched the third episode of ‘16 and Pregnant’ and thought that Valarie was a beautiful, intelligent young mother with a gorgeous little baby girl. It was funny watching the episode it bought back memories of when I was pregnant. Valarie’s boyfriend wasn’t around much which I thought was sad but in the end everything came together.
June 8, 2010
Chelsea is a high school senior from South Dakota, and pregnant by her boyfriend Adam. According to Chelsea, Adam has really warmed to the idea, but everyone else isn’t so sure when he neglects Chelsea during her difficult pregnancy. When Aubree is born, Adam seems disinterested and starts to exhibit some degrading behaviour. Does Chelsea have the strength to leave him? Here’s what our teen mum’s thought…
My Response Hayley:
I thought this episode was like the others; the girl is nice and the boy was a jerk. I find this hard to watch as my own experience with my son’s father is very different. He is a good dad and cares so much about our son but in this instance Adam is such a jerk to Chelsea and doesn’t seem to care about Aubree. Both those girls are much better off without him. I think it’s good Chelsea tried to go back to school but I can sympathise it would be hard as I've gone back to school after having a baby. Although it is hard, it does get easier and in the long run, it’s better for everyone.
My Response Mary:
I haven’t had my baby yet, but I have a fair idea what kind of problems you go through and have to put up with during pregnancy and after birth.
First Chelsea and Adam seemed to be a perfect match but after Aubree was born, everything turned ugly. Adam is a complete loser and didn’t realise what was important. He only cared about his car and his friends. He didn’t even seem to care about Chelsea and Aubree’s needs. I’m glad Chelsea stopped seeing Adam in the end and stopped beating herself up. I’m excited to watch the next episode to see if she and Adam work out.
June 15 2010
Lori is pregnant and undecided about whether to keep the baby. Being adopted herself, she has reservations, but is feeling pressure from all sides, including her parents who want her to give up the baby. Despite resistance from her boyfriend Cory, Lori decides to go through with the adoption. Did she make the right decision? Our teen mothers share their thoughts…
My Response Hayley:
I thought this episode was really sad - it nearly made me cry. I can’t understand who would want to give their little baby away after going through the pregnancy. I felt the love for my baby grew more as I got closer to my due date. I especially found it strange that she went through with it even though she was adopted, and after spending an extra two days with him in hospital. When my son was born, I could never have been able to give him away. Not only for myself but all the other people in my life who would have been devastated. Even though the dad wasn’t wonderful he was a step up from the others in past episodes.
My Response Kelsi:
Lori was pretty brave to go through with the adoption. She didn’t let herself get too attached to the baby at the hospital. I could never have gone through with that. I have a really good relationship with my son’s father compared to Lori and her partner, so we never considered adoption. I could have never have given my son up after only two days. You get emotionally attached before you even see them. This episode was so sad.
My Response Tripoli:
I think it would be extremely hard to give my baby up for adoption and personally I wouldn't do it. I think that the adoption wasn’t thought through for such a life changing decision. My parents also found out I was pregnant when I was about 5 months pregnant though I still thought things through and planned ahead which proved to work out, though Lori didn't seem to have much support from her mum in making the decision which didn't help. From my experience I found having a baby and taking care of my baby so much easier with the help and support from my family.
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